All my friends have secured a job

FriendsIt is easy to feel self-doubt if you have not yet secured a job/further study course after university when all of your friends have. It is important to remember that the timelines of securing an opportunity are not a reflection on you or your abilities. Sometimes you may get the first job/course you apply for, and at other times you may have to go through several applications before you find the one that’s right for you. Different companies/institutions recruit at different times and there are many other factors which mean you will find opportunities at different times.

We are all different, and all do things at our own pace. Sometimes it might feel like we are behind our friends and at other times ahead, when actually we are all on different journeys. Ultimately, it is not helpful to compare ourselves to others.

What can I do if I’m worried about securing a job or further study opportunity after university?

  • Create an action plan
    If you know what you want to do, think about the steps you can take to get there. This could include getting feedback on an interview you have attended or on your CV, or it could be around researching potential companies you might like to work for.
    For tips on setting SMART goals, see our guidance here.
  • Explore your career options
    If you’re not sure what to do, you can explore your career options using our four-step process to help you decide on what you want to do post-graduation, and also find opportunities and experiences you may be interested in.
  • Develop your transferable skills and gain some experience
    See our guidance on building your skills and experience for tips on where you can find opportunities to build your transferable skills and boost your CV.

    Remember, it is easy to compare ourselves to others, especially our friends, but this is not a healthy mind-set long term. What you perceive as your friends’ success may also not be a true representation of how they are feeling. Try and be happy for them and focus your energy on what you need to do to achieve YOUR goals. These may be very different from your friends’ and the path you take to achieving them almost certainly will be.

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